The Fun of Being Single

Before I start my paper and finish sparknote-ing a book I did not read, I want to shed some light on the single life. People think it's SO horrid, but it's actually pretty stress-less.

#1) You save your money on gifts: No extra money on a good birthday gift, Valentine's day present, Christmas junk, Chinese New Year fun, etc... Spend that hard earned cash on yo self!

#2) No angry texts saying, "Why didn't you text me at all?!": It's just annoying. It's not like your life revolves around just one individual

#3) Your friends don't get mad at you if you say you had plans with ___ already: Now you can focus of perfecting your relationship with your wonderful sidekicks and see their cheery faces!

#4) If you see a nice looking individual, you don't feel guilty for looking: Of course, there are always those couple of people who do have a boyfriend or girlfriend and continue to look at others...

#5) Flirting is a guilt-free trip!: Once again, there are the selected few who still do this with a lover...

#6) It's easier to figure out what type of person you want to be with: Take time to think about your goals and what type of person can fit into your lifestyle.

#7) Self-actualization: Find out who you are before jumping into something.

#8) Your bed is made strictly for you: You don't have to worry about sharing the blanket, cold feet touching yours, snore-ers, the wild sleeper that tries to fight you. You are free to sleep however you want!

#9) You can make yourself happy before trying to make someone else happy: I know I'm one of those people who put everyone before them self. Now, do what you want to do, when you want, how you want.

#10) You are able to love yourself before you can love someone else: Do I need to say more? How can you say you love a boy or girl when you can't love yourself first?

#11) You don't have to hide any flaws because you think that person might not like it:Go on and let your nappy hairs free! It's not like you need to impress anyone.

#12) You don't have to try to impress any parents or family members: Less stress. More sleep.

#13) Who are you gonna start a fight with? The mirror?: Really... there is zero fighting when you're single.

#14) Watch whatever shows you want without complaints: National Geographic, Pitt Boss, Oprah, Dr. Phil, Sappy Lifetime movies, etc... You name it, it's all yours!

#15) Finally, no worries of a break up, cheating or anything else that can let you down!: You have nothing else to worry about!

Celebrity Crushes (Update!)

I think it's time to update my list from the last one... (Link found here if you haven't read it)

Well, I'd like to start off with my crushie, Travis McCoy. Oh Travie, although I would never want to marry a guy covered in tattoos like you, I accept it. (Only because you make thousands of dollars) With your head of curls and gaged ears and piercings, you are the rebellious lover within Raven. Too bad my future career would never accept our relationship -___-

I am sorry for ever doubting you. But Channin Tatum, you are one hot white boy. You are like THE BLACK white boy. Mmm. Mmm. Mmm. And what kinda name is "Channing"? Certainly a black one! In Step Up, I thought you were some ugly dude they found on the street. I was blind. Because you, my sir, are quite the charmer. And you have a nicely toned voice too! My mama would like you too! Look at those STRONG facial features.

Drake. You are just cute because you're a "redbone" and I must say. I have a thang-thang for dem redbones. No tattoos, money, nice face, smooth lyrics (you probably have a ghost write anyway) what's not to like?! Mama would accept you yellow behind also.

Shia LaBeouf. Really. I've had a crush on him since Even Stevens, dude. Even Stevens. Now that he's grown and nice lookin', just makes it even better!

Johnny Depp. He's only cute because he has that "I'll kill you if you look at me wrong and then stroke your face" kinda look... you know what I'm talkin about! I only own the Pirates of the Carribean movies because I think he's a pretty pirate. Tis all...

Boris Kodjoe. THIS MAN IS HOT! End of story.

Josh Hartnett. Forever adorable.

And finally, Nick Simmons. Gene Simmons' (from Kiss) son. I just like his nose & hair. Thats about it =D

Supportive Partners

They say most single mothers wish for a supportive partner.

This is Farrah from Teen Mom on MTV. She is a single mother also. Her mother pretty much is her daughter's second mother, and she is juggling a job, school and a baby. On the finale show, she tells Dr. Drew she doesn't believe she will find a supportive partner. I agree with her...

I don't believe there is anyone out there who will truly be there for myself, as well as a male role model for Mia. Dr. Drew said, "I'm sure you will find the right guy" and Farrah responds saying, "I have a lot of guys... that waste my time." It was like I was on the in the TV because I was thinking the same thing.

Since I've been single, 7 months ago, I have yet to meet one guy who is mature enough to put emotional needs over physical, or see me not as some kind of object, but as a person. On top of that, they always say, "I want to hang out with you and your daughter" after I say, "I'm not interested in you." They think getting in good with Mia will give them a chance with me. That's a trip...

OH! And my favorite story:

A guy I know asks me to be his girlfriend for the past 3 months, repetitively. I continue to tell him I want to focus on my school work, work and Mia right now and not a boyfriend, repetitively. Finally, I guess it clicks and he says, "I can help you with your daughter." I say no. He says, "I understand she comes first in your eyes, and if I was your man, she would come first in my eyes too." I told him he was lying. Why you ask? Because if he cared that much about her, he wouldn't have just found out what her name was a week ago. He would have known it a long time ago. Maybe... 3 months ago when he started getting in my face... Now he's trying to "get to know me" after 3 months have passed. It's a little too late now. If he really wanted me for me, he would have started with, "What are you going to school for?" instead of "You have a nice body."

It's kind of sad that I believe this, but I really, truly, deeply do not think anyone wants me for who I am. They see a decent face and run to it. That's all. It makes me sick just hearing the same crap over and over again. Different faces with the same intentions and same lingo claiming they aren't like the other guys.

As a result, I have cut the male species out of my life completely. I barely want to be friends with some. Its the best thing I can do in order to be a good mother for Mia and a good student. A boyfriend would just blow up my phone and take away my spare time. Time needed for Mia. Yes, this is harsh. Yes, I would still like a supportive partner, but do you guys really think a 19-24 year old single man is really thinking about being a supportive partner and possible male role model for one's child, or trying to be a playboy? I think playboy.